How do you deal with your negative emotions?Psychology suggests that you regulate them through what it calls "cognitive reappraisal." You are invited to reassess the situation, take a different point of view, or replace any negativity with more positive thoughts and feelings. These all seem perfectly reasonable BUT that's the problem. Research done by a top university psychology professor shows that the reasoning center of the brain has no direct communication with the emotional center and therefore, no control over negative emotions. It remains questionable whether any of these have any substantial or long-term effect on your emotions. |
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While it may be preferable to resolve emotional issues in reality, sometimes that's just not practical or possible. For example, you may be angry at an ex who has moved away or a parent who has passed away. You have the right and the power to resolve your anger (or any issue!) within yourself for the benefit of your emotional well-being. Besides, reality is much easier to deal with without all that internal emotional pressure. As your emotionality dissipates, the facts of the trauma lose their charge and your reasoning center is then free to do what it does best-
assess those facts and make decisions, decisions that will be better made and better felt. When you use all of your brain's capabilities AND the right tools for the job, trauma is more thoroughly resolved. |